Strange encounters

I took my daughter's girlfriend, "Dani" to visit her grandmother today. Not her biological grandma, but the woman who is the mom of her guardian who took her in until she was 18. It was very strange to say the least.

We walked in and were introduced. Her grandma had not met my daughter or me. She has heard that my daughter is dating Dani. So the whole lesbian thing was new to Dani's family this past Thanksgiving when her guardian let it all out in the open. So grandma is looking at Dani with this steely gaze and not speaking. Dani is looking at the table and I am bouncy back and forth from all three faces. I winked at my daughter and made her smile. I tried to catch Dani's eye and I looked at grandma and saw in her eyes she was really the wolf in grandma's clothing. She made a comment about me being on the radio (looking at Dani the whole time) and what I said about Dani's guardians. She said, "I don't like some of the things that were said, but you [Dani] benefited so I guess it's okay." I wanted to say, "I told it like I saw it. I told what happened." I didn't say anything though, I just smiled at the grandma.

Conversation was stilted to say the least. We were all trying to think of things to say except my daughter. She was completely silent except for when the wolf asked where she worked. After 45 minutes of this we decided to make the excuse to leave. My daughter had to be at work. Grandma aka wolfy gave Dani her Christmas present and we left. We all breathed a huge sigh as we shut the car doors.

This is exactly why I would not allow my daughter to attend the Thanksgiving or the Christmas get together with Dani's guardians. In fact Dani didn't go either. They are horrid cold people and not at all accepting of Dani's lifestyle. My family has embraced Dani with open arms. They all love her and include her in every get together. They love my daughter and she will always be loved no matter what. I do not understand how people cannot accept their children when they are different. I will not allow anyone to shame my daughter. I will not tolerated ignorant comments from anyone.

When I started dating the new BF it was made clear that I will not tolerate prejudice of any kind. He has been very accepting of the girls as well as a young gay couple we are friends with. He said the girls are cute together, which they are. Even if my child was not gay, I could not tolerate prejudice in my life. I will not date people who are close minded. I can bend on some things like smoking (everyone arounds me smokes except for me. I can date a smoker, I just choose not to smoke) but I cannot bend on this. All people deserve respect and that is what I base my principles on.

I have had strange encounters in the past. I met with prejudice against wicca when my ex boyfriend's brother and sister in-law didn't want me at their home. I was shocked. I have never had anyone say I was not welcome in their home because of my religious beliefs. I was stunned that in this day and age there are still so many people with such hang ups. They need to get over themselves. It would shock them if they were turned away for being Catholic or Baptist. The "Christians" do not see anything wrong with themselves so why wouldn't they always be welcomed. Well I have news for them some places wouldn't welcome them with open arms, but they would never be turned away at a witch's home. Wicca is welcoming of all people. We do not try and force our beliefs on others just as we hope they would respect us by not shoving their beliefs down our throats.

My boyfriend believes in the Christian god. I told him that I am not out to change him or his beliefs. I just want him to be respectful of mine and not try and change me. It was agreed on and he is interested enough to learn more which I will be happy to share with him as little or as much as he desires to know.

We all come from different walks of life, we are all on different paths towards our personal growth. This is good. This is what makes people interesting. We do not have to be all going the same direction the same way at the same speed. We will all get there wherever our there may be.