good things come in small packages

I held ritual at my home February 2 for Imbolc. This is the wiccan "spring cleaning" sabbath. What I mean by spring cleaning is it is time to cleanse yourself mentally and emotionally. Get rid of excess baggage you do not want to take into the new spring with you. Have lots of lavender on hand and take a bath with lavender oil.

Natian did a cleansing for me to rid me of all negativity surrounding the drunk ex BF. I felt very light and tingly afterwards. I felt refreshed. He then asked me to make a list of qualities my new lova should have as I decided to enlist the goddess' help in finding a new man for me. So, I made my list and Dani said make sure to add tall. Nathian said If you are so shallow you will only date tall men then you have issues. I said no, my ex husband was 2 inches shorter than I am and I had no problem with that. I dated a guy who was 5'6" and I am 5'9", so I didn't feel compelled to request height in the list of attributes I am searching for in a companion. So, when the list was complete I rubbed rose oil on it and put it under a rose quartz and rubbed rose oil on the rose quartz as well. I then let it sit for a while. After ritual I bagged up the list with lavender, jasmine and hyacinth petals also infused with the rose oil, poured sea salt in on top of everything and tied it shut. I then made a wine offering to the goddess.

A few days later I was on the date line and heard this great ad. I thought he was articulate and had a great voice not to mention a sense of humor. I boxed him. I got a response in less than a day and he gave me his number. I never thought to check his stats (eye color, hair color, etc...)
So, we talked a couple times and decided to meet for lunch. We have the same birth month and sign, same initials, and he is 9 yrs older than I am. I like men who are older than me. When I got to the restaurant he was already there. he stood up to shake my hand and came to about breast level. He is 5'0" tall. I thought oh no! The goddess must be laughing at me for not putting height in my love spell. Dani I knew would say, "No one ever listens to me!" I can't date a guy this much shorter than I am! I was sure he was thinking in the same lines about dating a woman so much taller, but no. He said he was very pleased with how I looked, and he enjoyed our conversation and wanted to see me again. I had some misgivings but I agreed to see him again.

I spoke with my son and he said, "Mom I can't believe you are this shallow. You would want a guy to accept you for your weight why can't you accept a guy for his height?" Well, he had me there (when did my son become so philosophical?). Everyone I spoke to said give the guy a chance he seems nice and he likes you. So we talked on the phone and made plans for the next weekend. I came down with tonsillitis and had to stay home from work a couple days. He offered to bring me some turkey broth which I thought was sweet (I turned it down anyway due to the fact I wasn't sure I wanted him to see me looking so ratty in my pj's and no make-up). We met for lunch that Friday. After lunch as we were standing by my car I noticed the way he kind of leaned on my car and he has such an air of confidence about him that makes him rather appealing to me. I like a confident man who has a good stride and his head is up and he gives an impression to the world that he is just as good as everyone else. I like that in a man. Saturday he had to help his daughter move and I went to a birthday party for a friend who turned 50. The margaritas were strong and plentiful at the party. After the party I picked up Dani and then met the new guy at my place since it was 7:00 at night and too late to go somewhere really. I was feeling pretty loose and had a good buzz from the drinks, which I kind of needed. I tend to be nervous around him when we meet and I am not sure why. So, I was much more relaxed and able to be myself with him this time. He decided to drive to the store and we got stuff for snacks and then watched movies with the girls at my place.

Both the girls liked him and Dani said we looked so cute together. HA Thanks Dani! Anyway what happened during the movie was classic sassy witch. The remote had been misplaced on the DVD player in the living room. So, when the movie accidentally got stopped a half hour before the end, we all thought we had to start it over. I decided to try the one in my bedroom which is temperamental sometimes and doesn't want to work. It worked! So we all four had to pile on my bed and finish the movie. I nudged Dani in the butt with my foot and said, "Isn't this just like when I had back surgery and everyone piled in bed with me to watch movies with me and kept me company?" My daughter, Dani and I laughed. After the movie we all sat there and talked for a while. Then we got up and ate some popcorn and got something to drink. It was a fun evening and I am glad I gave him a chance. He is very intelligent, well read and doesn't have any addictions that I know of. I know our "society's" view say a man should be taller than a woman, but I have never given a rat's ass about what society thinks of me. I am not about to let society tell me who is good for me or not good for me based on looks, weight, or height. Besdes I have known a couple successful relationships where the woman has been taller than the man. My parents' good friends and my son's paternal great grandparents (I loved them dearly). Look at Hollywood, Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruz (they are divorced, but still she was a noticeble difference taller than Tom).

I am glad I decided to give him a chance. He is sweet, attentive and caring. What woman doesn't want a man who is all that?